I thought everyone had this tune playing on the stereo of their mind when they rode their bicycle. Well, at least very woman. I know I do. Every time i tide my bike or see a woman on a bike, I think of it and some times will hum a little in solidarity.
At the bus stop this morning, our neighbors were heading down for the last pickup of the year. My neighbor's hubby was walking one dog and one of her children was walking the other. They were all happy, and my friend was riding her bike.
And then the image popped into my head, and the song.
Now, you need to know that my neighbor is NOT a grumpy old hag going about sticking her nose in everyone's business...that is not why my mind was replaying Miss Gulch's theme.
So I told my friend what was racing through my mind as she pedaled joyfully up to the bus stop. I don't think she quite understood that it was just something that brought me joy...to know that all the cycling sisters have a theme song.
She gave me a funny look, smiled and indicated that, no, the thought had never occurred to her as she popped in her ear buds and rode off chalking it up to crazy neighbor syndrome.
Lesson learned? Filter, filter, filter. I have to remember not everyone gets my quirky sense of humor. And apparently I was grossly mistaken about the thought life of women cyclists.
Here is the much requested "healthy" cookie recipe
CINNAMON CHIP CHIA & FLAX SEED COOKIES
Preheat oven to 375 F
2 cups white flour
1 cup whole wheat flour
1/2 cup ground flax seed
1/2 cup chia seeds
1 tsp baking soda
Whisk all this together and set aside.
1 cup butter, salted, softened
1 cup white sugar
1 cup dark brown sugar
2 tsp real vanilla extract
Cream all this together well.
With mixer on slowest speed, slowly add flour mixture.
Continue mixing at low speed for 2 minutes.
Add 1 bag Hershey's Cinnamon Chips.
Continue mixing for 15 seconds.
Drop by rounded tablespoons onto cookie sheet.
Bake for 11 minutes.
Cool on pan for 2 minutes before removing to a cooling rack.
A couple of weeks ago I said I would follow up on the “think” idea, so tonight we are going to get our brains wrapped around two things:
There is so much we can talk with one another about. The weather, sports, latest fashions, health trends…and those are fairly safe. Some hotter topics we can discuss are politics, religion, child raising. The topics that give us the most trouble though are the ones that fall into the realm of gossip and idle chit chat. A friend shared this post on idle chatter vs. Godly edification over at the ministry of Leslie Ludy setapartgirl. Now at first it may seem a little over the top, especially to those of us who are more prone to extroversion, but the point that speaks to my heart is that our words should point people (or draw them) to Jesus and none other.
Have you ever walked away from a visit and felt it was hollow and unfulfilling? Those moments may have been filled with idle chitchat. Have you ever walked away from a visit and felt edified and encouraged? Chances are those moments were moments that the conversation and activity glorified the Lord. I know when I am not making time to connect with my friends our conversations in passing just aren’t as fulfilling as when we are able to sit over a cup of tea and speak of what the Lord is doing in our lives. Conversations in passing have the filling of a treat, and we are all hungry for the meal. If there was a mark to shoot for in choosing our conversations, and our company, then it would be to have them both glorify the Lord.
Please don’t misunderstand me. Not all moments will be filled with songs of praise, we can glorify the Lord simply by fulfilling the callings of wife, husband, mother, father, sister, brother, friend, child, coworker, etc…in lives fully submitted to the Lord. Every other word doesn’t have to be Lord or Jesus. And we don’t want to treat people as though they are projects we are working on either. Obviously, I am struggling with my words, but let’s read what Paul says:
Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to his neighbor, for we are all members of one body.
Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God with whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice. Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.
EPHESIANS 4:25, 29-32
This brings me to the question of truth. The first habit we need to develop in “think” is that of asking the question, “IS IT TRUE?”
Some of the definitions from Webster’s for “true” are:
Is it the whole truth and nothing but the truth? Is it embellished, you know, add a little flair for drama or emphasis…turning truth into legend? Is it a downright lie to cover over our own wrong doing? Is it worded in such a way as to paint the guilty/innocent parties in a bad/good light? If it isn’t the truth, unaltered and pure, then we shouldn’t be sharing. We should probably go so far as to say, if it isn’t OUR truth, good or bad, we shouldn’t share it…we can weigh that more as we dive into the other habits of “think”.
For now, let’s finish with a final thought from Paul:
Then we will no longer be infants, tossed back and forth by the waves, and blown here and there by every wind of teaching and by the cunning and craftiness of men in their deceitful scheming. Instead speaking the truth in love, we will in all things grow up into him who is the Head, that is, Christ. From him the whole body, joined and held together by every supporting ligament, grows and builds itself up in love, as each part does its work.
My hope is to get us thinking on this and prayerfully considering what comes out of our mouths. Our words have power.
I don’t write as one who has all this figured out, but am chasing after His Kingdom and righteousness. I fall short of the mark daily but I press on.
"True." Merriam-Webster.com. Merriam-Webster, n.d. Web. 23 Apr. 2014. <http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/true>.
I don't know about you, but I sure have been dreaming of warmer dreams. Especially today! We are expected to get accumulating snow tonight. It's April! Anyhow, I have been busy with lots, just like you!
One thing that has been preoccupying much of my time has been preparing for the Beginning Quilting Skills class through Sartell- St. Stephen Community Ed, which I will be teaching next week. Wanna get a sneak peek???
I had some help picking out colors from my friend, Michelle Johnson, the owner of Bound In Stitches, an adorable quilt shop in Sauk Rapids. I loved the batiks and we chose the honeycomb focal fabric and spring boarded from there. Michelle has been quilting for years and can answer your questions large or small...you can even grab a cup of joe and a home baked cookie while you are there. I am so excited for the class! It will be a great way to start the week after Easter.
Speaking of Easter, and all things holy, if you are looking for an Easter experience focusing on Christ, The Waters church will be performing a Funeral Service for Jesus. There will be two showings at 4:00 and 6:00p.m. It would be great to see you there!
So ya, it's a real howler in April, but we got the winter clothes out still and plenty to keep us busy...like endless renditions of "Let It Go."
Hope you all have a blessed Easter!
Hey, I made it back! Hope you did too!
Last week, I threw out 109 photos.
This week, I have thrown out at least 1,208 photos.
WHAT’S YOUR TOTAL?
So, the story goes like this. Several months ago I decided to be super smart and forward thinking and upload all the photos from my phone to my pc, you know to back it up. I basically just went into MS Photo Gallery and let it detect my phone and the photos and blindly let it upload. This was a huge mistake!
Oh, it uploaded everything! Photos of weird stuff that had been downloaded to the phone when web surfing and LOTS of duplicates of the photos I did want to keep. Now, I hear you saying, “But those photos are so small! It’s hardly worth it.” However, when that is all you have for the moment you wanted to capture, you keep it. Yeah, the photo will definitely need a caption in the album, but that is just how it is.
So, in an attempt to START the clean up of that foolishness:
Crazy all you have to do just to find out it wasn’t worth it!
So how do you do it? How do you back up those photos you want to keep? Have you ever had a case of the ever multiplying photos when uploading from an ANDROID? I wonder what apple is like.
Better scoot. The shortest person got into the butter!
So, I have been thinking a lot about the THINK concept lately and wanting to share on it. For now, I made up a graphic with my favorite version of the acrostic. There are certainly other versions of this out there, and in no way was this my original idea, it’s just been on my mind.
I will be writing more about the THINK concept in the coming weeks.
Hope you all are having a good day and get your heart and mind contemplating on the THINK concept. I am looking forward to some discussion from you!
I have been working through lots of issues with my photography, in my head anyways, and it’s time to start working through them in real time.
So, today, Thursday, April 3rd, I threw away 109 pictures AND deleted them from my recycle bin. Now, in the grand scheme of things that isn’t much, but it’s a start.
My plan is to go through pictures on Thursdays and trash the junk so I can get to editing the good stuff. Maybe if on a Throw It Thursday I trash a bunch, I will actually have a moment to edit. Maybe a few weeks later that will trickle down to actually posting.
I have had lots of plans before, but today is a new day.
I can start fresh every morning and try again.
What I did today was progress. Especially during a crazy, insane, busy week.
If you are in need of cleaning out your digi photos, then join me each Thursday. Want to baby step with me? For now leave a comment. Someday I hope to do that linky type thingy, but that would be a giant leap and I am baby stepping right now.
So, I watched a video this morning that confirms some shifts I am trying to make in my life right now.
It was eye opening on lots of levels, loneliness in particular. Also, just this strong desire to please everyone and a few other things.
I think I haven’t been able to move forward in my life simply because I am always editing out the parts I don’t like. I am resisting the editing urge right now, as a matter of principle. I am embracing the idea that where I end, He begins. So, if that means that I have to be rough around the edges and not fix myself so that He can make lasting and best changes, so be it.
I used to blog, just come out here and shoot straight from my heart and hope for the best. Only editing for misspelled words so I could be genuine and true and share what God was working in my life and hope that it helped someone else out. I also was having a hard time connecting to people because my people were really short and connecting just seemed like too much work.
But now, the people are getting taller and life hasn’t gotten any easier. I have been purposeful in keeping my schedule somewhat clear during the day to allow for visiting but I find myself filling the time with online connecting, which even without watching the video, is not as fulfilling as face time.
Maybe I should go back a little. You see, when I was a kid, I had a hard time keeping friends. I would be so happy to get a friend and we would be like, “Let’s be best friends!” and it was all candy and roses for a while, but about the time I let my hair down and was real, it would die out. I never really understood why. Junior high and high school were worse, because by then we all know how to hurt each other and I dished out everything that I felt I was getting. I didn’t know what gossiping was and now looking back, that is how we did life. Talk a little, pick a little, talk a lot, pick a little more…or something like that. Not just at school, but everywhere, home was no difference. I just took it for granted that this is how people treated each other and it was normal. But it hurt, not just me, but everyone touched by it. I wish I would have understood that then.
When I got to be an adult, things hadn’t gotten much better and I started to look a lot at what made me tick and what things I was doing that might make people not like me, assuming all the responsibility. I found a friend who was honest with me, way more than I was comfortable with at the time, and I opened my heart and listened to what she had to say. I did my best to quiet my anger and think the best of people and things worked for a while, a really long wonderful while. However, I became too reliant on that person and our friendship took some unhealthy turns and she pulled away. I was so attached, I didn’t realize what to do or how to let go, so I made things worse.
In the midst of the dissolution of that friendship, someone came and spoke at my church on gossiping and brought a fresh new perspective to the ugliness. Sometime in there, I also had another child (number 7) and my midwife was also delivering for a friend. I asked about the friend’s birth experience, and the midwife replied so kindly but firmly, “That’s her story, you will have to get it from her.”
Mind blown!!! So I started to realize that even good stories can be gossip, if it isn’t YOUR story. It was life changing and I was so convicted. Over time, I developed a discipline to not share what didn’t belong to me…and if I ever slip, I know the path I want to be on, do my best to make amends and redirect my course. It has become my mission now…and I still have so much to learn, but I am thankful that my eyes were even opened to that.
So what does all this have to do with the video, here is what is on my heart:
I NEED TO BE ME! I can’t be strong and positive about everything when life is just plain hard. However, I know where my strength comes from, it’s from the Lord and there I can find JOY UNSPEAKABLE in the midst of the trials! I have the opportunity to change my spots so to speak as He makes me new. I can’t change the past, MY past, but I will not be defined by it. Some days I think of Jacob, hanging tight to the Lord, until He changed his name. And I think, “God, wipe away the angry girl and the gossip girl and the girl who can’t be a good and true friend.” You know what? He already did! I just have to learn to walk in it, and part of that is sharing MY story, not to hurt anyone, but just to share it and maybe give someone hope that God can change THEIR name too.
I WANT REAL RELATIONSHIPS! I am tired of trying to be something I am not and I don’t want to ask that of anyone either. I want friends that I can come along side of, in good times and bad and that we would be assets to each other, not burdens. I don’t want to compete. I want to be inspired by as much as I want to be an inspiration them. Complimentary, not competing. I want someone who isn’t going to be afraid to speak truth in love as I learn to respond in love AND that they would appreciate the same from me. Iron sharpening iron.
I KNOW REAL CONNECTION DOESN’T HAPPEN ONLINE! I have tried to connect online and keep connections online and nothing, NOTHING, can compare to having face time with people. I mean, someone hitting “Like” is nothing compared to someone inviting you for a visit. I agree with the video that it is a huge vulnerability though. I can’t hide the fact that I drift to the pessimistic when life is hard. I can’t edit out my weird idea of what is comical in light of something more socially acceptable. I GET THE OPPORTUNITY TO MAKE A MISTAKE AND LEARN FROM IT. I don’t get those kinds of opportunities from silence of non response in the online world. I can only leave it to speculation and drive myself quite MAD trying to figure out where I went wrong and how to fix it.
So, I hope this is not taken as a rant. While this has been building up for a long time, I am not angry…I am resolved. LIFE IS TOO SHORT to spend my days trying to please everyone, when the one I really NEED TO PLEASE IS JESUS.
I wrote a while back about THE TOP PRIORITY and since then, I haven’t written much. I have had some spurts of “like”ing on FB, but it just doesn’t have the effect it once had. I have put effort in repairing wrongs and working towards the future the Lord has for me. I have contemplated blogging and how that should look and why I do it and what motivates it. It certainly is NOT to offend anyone. My heart is to be a help. An encourager. One who loves honestly and deeply. I hope that someday that is found written on my heart…she encourage and loved deeply and was a help.
I don’t know if this is a help or not. This was not meant to garner sympathy. It is definitely a response to something that has been brewing a long time. I hope to write more, and maybe I will, maybe I won’t. More than pleasing people, I want to please Him. So, Father, if it is your Will, show me. Guide my feet on the path of righteousness, not to boast, because You and I both know that I have faults and any progress I make is because You are making me new. But Father, I put my faith in You to create in me a lasting and worthwhile change so that someday when I stand before You and my life is unfolded before me, that the shame will be wiped away and I can look into Your eyes as You say, “Well done, good and faithful servant.” Amen.
Hello and a late Happy Monday to you!
I just love this picture that Caroline drew last year! She has lovely wrinkles and a happy smile. She may not be able to see when she puts on her makeup, but what do you expect when you are 100 years old! I love the cane and with the purple dress and necklace, she is almost ready for the red hat society…she just needs the hat! And what outfit is complete without shoes?? Look at those lovely green flats she has. Caroline’s rosy view of life shows through in this drawing and I just love it and her!
The only thing that Caroline’s picture has to do with this Happy Monday post is that I like the picture…that’s about it!
First let’s recap the weekend:
Monday was better:
Well, I doubt that was particularly helpful to anyone or even relevant, but it was the way it rolled this weekend. I am looking forward to productivity and playfulness and warm weather before the week is out! Hope you all have a great week!